Finding Sacred Space in a troubled world


Sacred Space

There’s no doubt in my mind that our world is changing and how our recent election in the U.S. has really stirred-the-pot, shaken people to their core, and hopefully gotten each person to take a look inside and re-visit core values.

I think of all the classes that I took when attending CSU Sacramento, Mass Media and Society is the one that had the most impact.  What I took away from that class gave me direction on how I wanted to live my life.

Over the years since, I have seen how television and the media has changed and how it has changed people.

I imagined that in the 50’s, the powers-that-be got together and had meetings on how to “market” a new set of standards to the American public.

There was a standard put in place, through the media, that women should stay home, kids should eat sugary cereals, and that smoking was a cool thing to do, and we rarely saw people of color on TV.

Fast forward to the present, where we see the impact of the media being sold to our children.  How many children have cell phones, X Boxes, TV’s in their bed rooms?

Mass media, a form of brainwashing, is welcomed in almost every household as a necessity.  We cannot operate without phones, computers, and TVs.

The people in marketing are studying trends so they can make the most profit when a need is trending.

Think about this for a moment:  The more fast food, processed food that the population eats, the sicker the majority becomes which leads to bigger hospitals, more pharmaceuticals needed, and why not focus on the family pet while they’re at it.  Every day, we are being promoted to by billboards, magazine, radio, television, cell phones, pop up ads to use drugs.

Mass media has done it’s job to create fear and mistrust and blind trust in general.

Enough said….

So, with all of this, where do we go to find Sacred Space, where we can be left alone with our own thoughts, our own ideas, our own feelings, and stay in connection with our Divine presence?

Do we have to wait for a vacation to find a spot in Nature where we can reconnect with our essence?

Do we have to wait for a Sunday to attend religious services?

Have we lost touch with what’s real vs. what’s fed to us through the media?

Has the media pre-empted our need for a spiritual connection? 

Is it luring us away from our innate truth, our authenticity, our understanding, intuition, and our compassion for people as a whole? 

Creating Sacred Space in the home is a critical necessity in this day and time, a Cottage value, if you will, to make a place in your home, in each room even, to establish your family’s values, to anchor the presence of the Divine in your life, to remind you of your core values.

There is a Hawaiian prayer used for healing of everyday life:


It means:

I love you (God or the God in you and me)

I’m sorry ( for at times losing this connection)

Please forgive me (for forgetting that I am Love)

Thankyou ( for blessing me always)

When repeated in the mind’s eye these words can bring profound and miraculous healing.

The words can be internally repeated when we feel fear, when we have issues, to a body part or pain, to our rooms,to our family, friends, and pets, to those who are deceased, to the world, to God.

Each person can take this and embrace it as their responsibility or choose to ignore it, and let the powerful force of the mass media control their thoughts.

The words of the Ho’oponopono prayer are powerful cleansing tools to erase from our consciousness the tapes recorded over our lifetimes that are embedded in our unconscious and affect our lives everyday.

These words can create the sacred space necessary to hold onto the connection with our Creator, to anchor us in the Divine’s embrace.

It is a simple tool, when used with sincerity can cleanse old pains that are keeping us stuck in fear, and show us a way to carry on in the face of difficulties.

It is a tool that can bring such a feeling of love inside that you will feel like you have found Heaven on Earth, as it is life-changing.

It is the safest, most private way to carry your Sacred Space within your heart, where no one can take it away from you, no matter what happens.

I didn’t know where I was going with this post.  At first, I thought I would be talking about mini-altars in the home, but I was led to understand that each person needs to carve a Sacred Space right in their heart by using the healing prayer of Ho’Oponopono.

Like I said, the pot has been stirred, and each person is being called to tunnel into their heart and create your sacred space in the sanctity of your own soul and keep the fire stoked by using the cleaning prayer.

By God’s grace, I love you, I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thankyou.





How I use My Zone of Tranquility

via Photo Challenge: Solitude          Continued from “Creating a Zone of Tranquility”

I wanted to sit right down and start writing some thoughts to improve the article, about creating a Zone of Tranquility, when I realized that I needed to take some of my own advice, the advice that this article is all about……. finding a place for Solitude, Creating a Zone of Tranquility, as it’s called in Vastu, which is another term for Indian Feng Shui.


But here’s my question;  How often do I use it?  Not often enough, I can tell you that!

And how long does it take to find the clarity I’m talking about?


This muddy water has been sitting still for over a week


It’s taken this mud over a week to begin to finally settle, and it has been sitting still 24/7, and it still isn’t clear.

So, how long does it take our minds, when they are being constantly bombarded with new information, and what can we do to take the process of clearing our minds one-step-further?

You may have stopped watching television, or at least, edited what you do allow to enter your mind by being more selective about what you give your attention to.

You may have already carved out a sacred space in your home to use as your place of Solitude, your Zone of Tranquility.

You may even have limited the amount of time you spend on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, Etsy, Ebay , Shopify, and email to a reasonable time period.

But how do you spend those 15 minutes per day of ” clearing obscurations-of-the-mind”?

And what if I can’t get into a sitting pretzel position on the floor to meditate?

And what can I use to help me, once I do figure out the correct posture to begin?


This is my Zone


My Dear Cottage Mavens!  I can only share with you my experience, and hope that you will be able to create your “zone” that is unique to you.

I like to sit in a comfortable chair, preferably a wingback because it has good back support.  But any chair will do as long as you can plant your feet firmly on the floor.  I also like a pillow at my back to support my lumbar, and a soft blanket to wrap up in.

This is called the” Westerner’s siitting meditation posture “coined  by Paramahansa Yogananda.  Here are some guidelines:

  1. Sit up straight in a chair
  2. Eyes closed and focused between the eyebrow
  3. Head erect
  4. Feet flat on the floor
  5. Palms resting on the thighs at the juncture of the abdomen

The reason to keep the eyes focused between the eyebrows is because if they are lowered, your thoughts will begin to stray.

Keeping the back straight and head erect, align the spine to receive Divine Light from Source, and to help you stay awake.


I like to hold two palm stones in my hands.  My favorite stones or crystals to hold are Rose Quartz, clear quartz, and amethyst. It’s a personal choice.  You can even go look in your garden fr a couple of smooth rocks that fit comfortably in your palms.

They all have a living vibration, and I’ve noticed a feeling of groundedness, and I go deeper into the silence.

Today, I sat with two rose quartz crystals.

Sitting quietly, calming the mental chatter, I began feeling a wash of chills flowing through my body.

For me, this confirms the presence of my Angels and guides.

This is when I take a moment to let the blessings flow over me, as though my whole body is being cleansed, healed, and burdens are being lifted and transformed.

This is the feeling of pure and total bliss that is waiting for you.

I also take this time to express gratitude and give thanks for the healing vibration that I’ve experienced for body, mind, and soul.

Today I asked my rose quartz if they had a special message to impart.

” They help in reaching a state of calmness and help in connecting us to the heart center”  Rose Quartz

I can affirm this to be true.

When I wear rose quartz as jewelry, I’ve noticed that my connection with others is more intimate, and heart centered.

Learning to meditate

is not easy at first, and it takes years of practice.  Every time you sit, you will have a different experience.

Once learned and established as a way of life, it will change you in miraculous ways.

Running, gardening, knitting, painting are meditative practices, and will raise your vibration, but cannot be compared to having the lasting and profound effects of a sitting meditation practice.

Rumi ~~~~ Out beyond ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing, there is a field.  I’ll meet you there.

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Laundry Therapy

IMG_0102do you ever feel overwhelmed?

Maybe it’s the laundry piling up, the bills that need to be paid, or the kids are out of school and bored out of their minds?

Being a single mom almost the entire duration of my kids growing up, wearing many different hats;  breadwinner, homemaker , housekeeper, I sometimes wonder how I kept it all together.

There are so many things that stand out in my mind as I look back on it now.

There are some that are so obvious, especiałly with children, like the importance of teaching them independence ,learning to pick up after themselves at a young age and making it FUN!

ATTITUDE towards the work makes the difference no matter who it is.

I was looking at a large pile of laundry for a couple of days-avoiding it. So finally, deciding to get it done, I first had to “visualize” the best way to do it!

In my minds eye, I saw the kitchen table cleared off, creating a folding table, making it easier to get the job done. So, that’s what I did first, I organized my workspace!

next, while folding the clothes , at first, the rebellious child reared its stubborn head, thinking “why do I have to do all the housework?”

Then, I started to notice how easy my folding was going and how fast I could get it done, and before I knew it, I was finished!  10 Minutes!

so, during that short session, (Let’s call it “Laundry Therapy”) my attitude changed from negative to positive and I was able to “self-correct”.

All human beings have the innate ability to self correct.

the other big obstacle that creates overwhelm is the tendency to blame others.

This creates so much negative energy and causes us to become “stuck” in blame-mode.

if things arent getting done, are we blaming others?

i went through a period with my son, where one day we both realized that all of our disagreements were based on one of us blaming the other for something-it was as though we both saw how futile it was, and mutually agreed to stop the blaming pattern.

Blame comes from anger and resentment towards someone who we think should be doing something our way.

Blame is ego based.  Ego is ” Edging God Out”.

When we stopped the blame, and began to take responsibility for our own egos, our relationship improved from then on.

There may be times when it all just becomes too intense, and anger boils to the surface.

Its important to pay attention to those times, and observe yourself.  It might be a good idea to do some self-reflection.

Is it that time of month?

Did something that happened recently trigger this emotion?

Am I keeping my body in balance?  Eating nutritious foods, everything in moderation, including alcohol, coffee, and other stimulants.

Set some time aside, and learn to meditate, or just take a time-out for yourself-your body is telling you that it needs some nurturing.

Mommy needs Time-out!

Sleep and exercise play a key role in self-nurturing.

I often carry rose quart or amethyst stones in my pocket, and the energies of these stones create a very calming affect. You can also put them on the bedside table or under your pillow at night.

Salt lamps in the home can also contribute to a Calming atmosphere .

Yes, life can seem overwhelming at times, but we are never given more than we can handle.

Here are the key points to help you maintain your equilibrium and a sense of ease.

Attitude- work on keeping it positive , see the bright side of things.

Visualize – a task or project before you begin-you may discover a unique solution that you had been over looking.

Organize-your daily areas and make sure that everything that you need to make your life easier is available and in its place.

Listen- to your thoughts as you go about your daily routine.  Is there something you need to deal with?  Take care of it.  Write it down.  Make a plan of action.


Blame- are you blaming others?  Take action instead!

Keep your body balanced.  Eat nutritious meals, exercise, get plenty of sleep, everything in moderation, meditate .

Here’s to the good life – a life filled with Cottage Necessities!

Walking My Talk Part III

I had wanted to do this for a long time.  But I just didn’t have the nerve ….


So on March 3rd, when my daughter  came home all excited because a male colleague of hers  had come in to see her, and told her how he had been having a series of hydro-therapy colonics, and how his stomach went from a bloated beer-belly to completely flat, we knew that we needed to go.

March 3rd,2016 was the day that she and I had committed to doing the “Purium Cleanse”for 10 days to start our weight loss journey.  She wanted to lose 10 lbs. and I…well, I …wanted to lose about 60!

So, she made an appointment and we went together (which I found out later that it’s pretty common for friends, relatives, even whole families to go together).

She went first, and I stayed in the room,which was decorated “early Hippie Bohemian”, with a Navaho rug  in earth-tones hanging on the wall, watercolor paintings of a beach scene, and one of a lush garden scene, as well as medical posters of colons, showing what a healthy colon should look like.  It was clinical but casual, and the therapist put us at ease right away with a friendly, comical banter. He invited me to sit in a massage chair that had no more skin covering the back beaters, but a blanket thrown over the back. The three of us carried on with a lively conversation as he went about his work.  He informed us that he had been doing this for 30 years ( which later, it was 35, and then 39).  I am not sure if it was modesty or not wanting to disclose his age, as he looked much younger than his 68 years .

My turn…the colon therapist took one look at me and said that I needed 20 colonics!

At that point, I am sure that most people would have turned on their heels and bolted for the door!

He also told me that he wanted me to really think if this was something I wanted because he thought that I was going to have some kind of “blowout!” LMAO!

I assured him that I wanted to do this, that we had just started a cleanse to lose weight, and that we wanted to relieve our bodies of toxic build-up.

Before starting the Purium cleanse, I had already stopped dairy, gluten, sugar, and caffeine , so I didn’t have too much trouble with detox symptoms,  just some tiredness.

My daughter experienced a couple of down days and we both rested and napped a lot during the 10 days- each of us lost 5lbs.

She went with me for the second colonic and the hydro therapist told her that she was done.

My situation, however, was a different story.

I was determined to see this through and decided that if I needed 20 colonics, then so-be-it!  I was game, and I trusted what he was telling me.

I remembered a woman who used to come into  the store where I worked to shop, while her husband was at a nearby clinic having his monthly colonic.  He had had heart trouble, and swore that the colonics had saved his life.

Next Tuesday will be my 10th colonic and here is what I’ve experienced so far…

It has helped my weight loss efforts—I’m down 20 lbs.

It has re sculpted my waist-line…I’m getting my figure back.

I have more energy, feel more like excercising, and it has increased my libido.

My eyes sparkle .

My jaw-line is tightening, and my skin looks more toned and vibrant.

After the second one, I released deep seated grief ( this is common to block grief from trauma in the colon).

Water is Spirit and brings Light into the colon.

I felt my aura (energy field) expanding.

I feel lighter, like when I was a child.

Im eating less and don’t have cravings.

My skin recently started itching and breaking out, which tells me more toxins are coming to the surface.

I take salt baths to help my skin detox along with dry brushing the skin.

I have found these books helpful in my understanding of colon Hydro-Therapy:

Outwitting The Devil by Napolean Hill (a must read!).

Colon Health and Become Younger by Norman Walker

Edgar Cayce’s Guide to Colon Care by Sandra Duggan RN

Did I mention that I look and feel younger?

My skinny jeans are now my baggy jeans!

When the Universe plopped me down in Hawaii, I had no idea what to expect!

If you’ve read my previous posts, I packed my workout clothes, which consisted of one pair of yoga pants,two new shirts, (one that says “never give up” and one that says”run now wine later”) and a pair of tennis shoes for walking.

So, that must have been my half -hearted “intention” .

Never give up! Has become my mantra.

With the barrage of massages,(read previous post) I was needing a way to eliminate the toxins that were finding their way to the colon.

80 to 90 percent of disease starts in the colon.

After age 50, the weight seems to just pile on. I used to say that I could just look at food and I would gain weight.

I asked my colon therapist if when he sees someone who is overweight, does he think they’re just full of old, unprocessed poop?  He said “Yes.!”

But he also said that some of the most put-together people have blockages.  So, it’s not just for overweight people.  It’s for everyone and is the most important thing we can do for ourselves to maintain vibrant health, a sound mind, and well-being.

So, my friends, I will add Colon Hydro-Therapy to my list of Cottage Necessities!

Disclosure:  this article is not meant to give medical advice.  Please consult with your physician before going on a weight loss journey..

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